The problem, it seems, is actually the blinders—the inability to engage meaningfully in the conversation. According to the white fragility model, because white folks have the choice to move through the world not thinking about race very often, our race-thinking muscles atrophy and we (unless we consciously do some hard work thinking about these things) can collapse under the slightest weight when it comes to talking about it. We start to sputter, and get defensive, and become angrily dismissive instead of staying calm and talking it out in a sensible way.
Brendan Kiley’s piece on the Slog is a really good summarization of the whole Mikado/racist theater situation and the unbelievably problematic response.
Seattle is a city with a race problem — and white liberals denying it isn’t making it go away.
It’s like we’ve said before — even if you don’t see it as offensive, that doesn’t mean it didn’t offend someone, thus making it offensive.
Our motto, with this and all situations like it: Just say you’re sorry and try to learn something, rather than doing mental backflips trying to rationalize why someone else’s offense at your action was the wrong response.
ALSO — and here is a sentence I never thought I’d ever, ever type — go read the Yelp reviews. For the first time possibly ever in the history of that godforsaken website, they’re actually really insightful.(via seattlish)
A lot, a lot, a lot, a lot of your lived experiences on Earth actually have nothing to do with you, but with the narrative that your body presents — at least that’s what I’ve deduced. The narrative can change, sure, but if it does, it’s got nothing to do with what you’ve done to subvert it, and everything to do with other people doing a better job of restraining their inner asshole.
As the genius comedian Chris Rock said of Pres. Barack Obama’s election in 2008: “You could say that black people made progress, but to say black people have made progress would mean that black people deserved to be segregated,” he said. “The reality is that white people have gotten less crazy.”
This brings me to the recent Harvard Business Review article by a Harvard professor that aggregated a bunch of studies which all said that the social and inter-office political implications for women who “lean in,” AKA aggressively negotiate for pay or other things at work, are much more catastrophic than they are for men.
Worth reading, as well as related studies.(via timoni)
It might take us a lifetime to find out what it is we need to say. Most of us fall into where our feelings are headed while we’re quite young. But the beauty of all this uncertainty would be that in the process of exhausting all the possibilities, we might actually stumble unconsciously into the recognition of something that’s useful to us, that speaks to a deep need within ourselves. At the same time, I like to think that in order for any of us to really do anything new, we can’t know exactly what it is we are doing.
The guy who has no idea how brooms work:
This guy that is pretty sure he was just kicked:
This guy who has no control over his arm movements: